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This is the counseling blog of Joe Borders, marriage and family therapist. Here you will find posts on a range of topics in the area of mental health, counseling, and therapy. Most of my posts have videos in them.

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Welcome to my counseling blog!


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Here you will find all kinds of information related to counseling, therapy, and mental health. Check back every now and then for new content or “like” my facebook page to get updates.

The content found in this blog is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to take the place of counseling, therapy, or advice from a professional. If you are in need of counseling and/or help with psychological problems please contact a mental health professional.
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Autistic Character Introduced on Sesame Street


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Something really awesome happened this week and I needed to have it collected somewhere so I could share with people. Sesame Street just introduced an autistic character to the show. My understanding is that she has been in books before but never on the show. In my counseling work I have heard many parents of children on the spectrum talk about the frustration and disappointment they feel about a lack of opportunities for their children to be included in things with other non spectrum kids. This is such a great movement in a positive direction that will help autistic children to feel more accepted and help non spectrum children to understand autism and feel more comfortable interacting with their peers on the spectrum. I just wanted to collect and post a few videos here because I think its awesome! ^_^

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Introversion vs. Extroversion


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Most people have some idea of whether they are an introvert or an extrovert, but in my experience, most people don’t really understand what it means to be either. Most people simply think of extroverts as being outgoing and introverts as being shy. Although this can be true, the real distinction is in where each gets their energy from.

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Anxiety Counseling, Other issues

Misophonia: Hatred of Sound


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This week, as I was driving in my car, listening to my baby crying for half an hour, I was inspired to write about something that has come up in therapy several times over the years: misophonia. Misophonia, literally, the hatred of sound, is a condition which causes sufferers to experience strong emotional and/or physical responses to particular sounds. Common trigger sounds include the sound of chewing, swallowing, coughing, crinkling, and other, primarily bodily sounds.

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Words to Describe Emotions


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Do you ever have a thought or feeling that is hard to describe, and you wish there was a word for it? Turns out often times there are words to describe very complicated emotions, if not in English, then in another language. Words like this are an interest of mine. For some time now I have been wanting to make a blog post that presents some of my favorite obscure/foreign words for emotions.

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Self-Esteem


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We hear about self-esteem and talk about it throughout our lives, but people rarely have a good understanding of what self-esteem is, how we get it, and what affects it. Self-esteem is a person’s internalized sense that he/she is valued and accepted. In short, it is a reflection of a person’s subjective sense of self worth. This contrasts with self-efficacy which refers to a person’s belief in his/her abilities to perform certain tasks. A lot of times people get these two mixed up because we tend to think of our self esteem being tied to our achievements and the things we are capable of doing. You might hear a person say “I have self esteem because I am good at soccer” when what they really mean is “I have self esteem because I know I am valuable to my soccer team and my family/friends who love me show up for my games.”

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More on the effects of stress


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I found this video on youtube the other day and thought it might be a good addition to some of the videos I have posted on stress. Chronic stress effects us in many negative ways. Stress essentially turns on the brain’s fight or flight response and the body cannot maintain that state of alertness for long periods of time. I like to compare it to revving your car engine at a stop light. Doing so can give you a burst of force when you’re ready to go, but if you rev your engine for too long you’ll burn out your engine.

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Lucid Dreaming


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Do you dream often? Studies show that the average person has three to five dreams per night. Some people like myself claim to rarely dream, but research suggests that even in these cases, we do dream but are unable to recall our dreams when we wake. As someone who rarely remembers dreaming, I sometimes envy people who have deep, vivid dreams that can be hard to distinguish from reality.

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