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This is the counseling blog of Joe Borders, marriage and family therapist. Here you will find posts on a range of topics in the area of mental health, counseling, and therapy. Most of my posts have videos in them.

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Why I Haven’t Been Blogging Much


Hello world! I just wanted to drop in here and update my site to explain why I haven’t been blogging much. I actually have been blogging, but in a different place.

SacWellness

In February 2018 I started working on creating a new website. Most of my blogging efforts have been focused there. My new site is called SacWellness. Its a website designed to help people find therapists in the greater Sacramento area. It pretty much covers the areas between Elk grove and Auburn and between Davis and El Dorado hills. You can use the site to search for therapists by treatment approach, issues treated, language, location, and insurances accepted.

Since starting my practice in 2014, writing has become an integral part of my practice, marketing, and my general professional well being :-p. I really enjoy doing it and I’m not going to stop any time soon. You can visit sacwellness.com to find more of my blog posts and those of other local therapists.

In general I intend to write any articles that relate to my specialties here on my site. All others will be written on SacWellness.com. So in general you can expect to see articles on this site being limited to LGBTQ+ issues, sex positive issues, couples, and teen counseling.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog! Feel free to reach out if you have any questions and/or would like to talk with me about therapy.

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ABC’s of Gender


There are so many things to know about gender identity and gender terminology. Many people commonly mix up gender, sex, and sexuality/ sexual orientation. As a gender therapist I often run into confused parents/family members of clients who don’t understand what their loved one is talking about. In the past I wrote a relatively short blog post about trans/non-binary related terminology. This one is going to be more expansive and I may update it and keep expanding on it as time goes on.

If you or someone you love is trans or gender non conforming you could really benefit from knowing some common concepts and terminology. Really everyone should become familiar with this stuff, because gender is not black and white and there are a lot of people in the world who are gender queer or struggling with their gender identity. So without further ado: (more…)

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Welcome to my counseling blog!


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Here you will find all kinds of information related to counseling, therapy, and mental health. Check back every now and then for new content or “like” my facebook page to get updates.

The content found in this blog is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to take the place of counseling, therapy, or advice from a professional. If you are in need of counseling and/or help with psychological problems please contact a mental health professional.
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Autistic Character Introduced on Sesame Street


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Something really awesome happened this week and I needed to have it collected somewhere so I could share with people. Sesame Street just introduced an autistic character to the show. My understanding is that she has been in books before but never on the show. In my counseling work I have heard many parents of children on the spectrum talk about the frustration and disappointment they feel about a lack of opportunities for their children to be included in things with other non spectrum kids. This is such a great movement in a positive direction that will help autistic children to feel more accepted and help non spectrum children to understand autism and feel more comfortable interacting with their peers on the spectrum. I just wanted to collect and post a few videos here because I think its awesome! ^_^

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Introversion vs. Extroversion


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Most people have some idea of whether they are an introvert or an extrovert, but in my experience, most people don’t really understand what it means to be either. Most people simply think of extroverts as being outgoing and introverts as being shy. Although this can be true, the real distinction is in where each gets their energy from.

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Misophonia: Hatred of Sound


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This week, as I was driving in my car, listening to my baby crying for half an hour, I was inspired to write about something that has come up in therapy several times over the years: misophonia. Misophonia, literally, the hatred of sound, is a condition which causes sufferers to experience strong emotional and/or physical responses to particular sounds. Common trigger sounds include the sound of chewing, swallowing, coughing, crinkling, and other, primarily bodily sounds.

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Words to Describe Emotions


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Do you ever have a thought or feeling that is hard to describe, and you wish there was a word for it? Turns out often times there are words to describe very complicated emotions, if not in English, then in another language. Words like this are an interest of mine. For some time now I have been wanting to make a blog post that presents some of my favorite obscure/foreign words for emotions.

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Self-Esteem


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We hear about self-esteem and talk about it throughout our lives, but people rarely have a good understanding of what self-esteem is, how we get it, and what affects it. Self-esteem is a person’s internalized sense that he/she is valued and accepted. In short, it is a reflection of a person’s subjective sense of self worth. This contrasts with self-efficacy which refers to a person’s belief in his/her abilities to perform certain tasks. A lot of times people get these two mixed up because we tend to think of our self esteem being tied to our achievements and the things we are capable of doing. You might hear a person say “I have self esteem because I am good at soccer” when what they really mean is “I have self esteem because I know I am valuable to my soccer team and my family/friends who love me show up for my games.”

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