In my work with Trans and gender non-conforming clients I have run into a consistent theme that I think needs to be talked about. Sometimes binding sucks! All too often I hear my trans clients talk about finding themselves in difficult binding situations and feeling like nobody gets what they’re going through. Sometimes I write blog posts with the intent of them being shared by people as a way for them to communicate something that is going on with them. This one is for the trans and gender non conforming folx. (more…)
You can control ADHD and anxiety with structured fidgeting
Fidgeting is common among people with ADHD and anxiety problems. It used to be thought that fidgeting was a behavior that should be extinguished as much as possible, but recent studies have found that structured fidgeting can actually help people to control ADHD and anxiety. Simple, mindless, repetitive actions can help those with ADHD to focus on tasks that they would normally find difficult to pay attention to. (more…)
Studies have shown that one of the most predictive factors of success in life, is the ability to delay gratification. Children who are able to delay gratification tend to have better grades, do better in college, and grow up to have successful careers. The term “delayed gratification” refers to a person’s ability to put off immediate rewards for the benefit of greater rewards in the future. In our modern world, it seems to be the case that adults are needing to delay gratification more and more while children are doing it less and less.
There are small moments in life that can be really inspiring and stick with us. This little boy is learning to ride his bike and offers a speech about practicing, not giving up, and getting better and better as you do it. In counseling we sometimes talk about the ways life has gotten us down, made us pessimistic, afraid, anxious, or doubtful. I love watching children navigate the world in their innocence and lack of inner critic.