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Welcome to my counseling blog!

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Here you will find all kinds of information related to counseling, therapy, and mental health. Check back every now and then for new content or “like” my facebook page to get updates.

The content found in this blog is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to take the place of counseling, therapy, or advice from a professional. If you are in need of counseling and/or help with psychological problems please contact a mental health professional.
Couples Therapy

Seven Ways to Spice up Your Love life: A Style Magazine Article

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I recently wrote another article for the local Style Magazine. You can find it all month at many local businesses and on their website: Light My Fire: 7 Relationship Tips . As per usual, the following is the unabridged version with accompanying videos.

7 Tips to Spice up Your Love Life

              Everyone knows the deep, passionate love that is common in new relationships. As time goes on that passionate love tends to diminish when we get through what many people call “the honeymoon period”. This doesn’t mean that our relationships become any less valuable or meaningful, but people often talk about missing that passionate love they felt for their partner early in their relationship. Through vulnerability, open communication, and some exploration, you can reignite that passionate love. Here are seven things you can do to spice up your love life. (more…)

Coping Corner

How to Sleep Better.

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Lots of people have trouble sleeping. In therapy this is one of the most common complaints I hear about in people’s lives. In fact, the American Sleep Association reports that up to 30% of Americans have trouble with insomnia. Luckily there are lots of things you can do to help you sleep better. In this post I’m going to talk about what is known as “sleep hygiene”. (more…)

Addiction Counseling

The Common Symptom of Addiction Recovery that Nobody Talks About.

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Recovering from addiction is challenging and requires a lot from people. There are many hardships that come along with recovery, some well known, and some that don’t get talked about very often. In my experience as an addiction counselor I have consistently seen a lack of discussion about a very important issue that comes up for most if not all recovering addicts: anhedonia. (more…)


Grief and Loss: Healing Through Stories

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We all go through grief and loss at some point in our lives

Everyone has their own individual experience of grief, and no one can tell you how you should grieve or how long it should take. In grief counseling, I have worked with many people who have suffered through the loss of a loved one. The one thing I have seen in common in all of these cases is the importance of being able to experience your own grief and the emotions that come with it. (more…)

LGBTQ Therapy

How to Be Supportive When Someone You Love Is Trans or Non Binary

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As a gender therapist, I see a lot of trans and non-binary people in my counseling work. One thing that often comes up in therapy is confusion/misunderstanding among family members. I often get parents calling me for counseling, saying that their teen has come out as trans or non-binary and they don’t know what that means or what to do to support their child.

This blog post offers tips that I often cover in therapy, on how to be supportive of your loved one. It is part of a series of posts intended to offer help and guidance to anybody who loves someone who is trans or non-binary.


LGBTQ Therapy

Someone I Love is Trans or Non-Binary: A Primer on Terminology

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So you’ve recently discovered that someone you love and care about it trans or non-binary. As a trans affirming therapist I work with a lot of teens and adults discovering their gender identity. For the person doing the discovering, this can be a time mixed with emotions like excitement, fear, anxiety, hope, relief, and happiness. Something I see a lot in therapy are parents, friends, or lovers being supportive of their loved ones, but not being sure what all of this means. Over the next month or two I would like to take the time to help you understand more about what it means to be trans or non-binary, some terminology, what you can do to help and be supportive, and what might come next. In this segment:

Some Terms You’ll Likely Hear When Talking About Trans and Non-Binary Issues.


Codependency, Couples Therapy, LGBTQ Therapy

Interviewed By a Local Therapist

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A friend and local therapist recently interviewed me for her counseling blog. We talked a little about addiction, codependency, couples therapy, and what led me to become a counselor. Take a look! ^_^ :

An Interview: Joe Borders Couples, Teen, and LGBTQ Therapist

If you have any questions about anything in this post or would like to talk to me about therapy and counseling, give me a call sometime. I am a local therapist with offices in Sacramento and Roseville.

Joe Borders, MFT
Counseling and Therapy in Roseville and Sacramento
(530) 448-6602

1722 Professional Drive,
Sacramento, CA 95825
775 Sunrise Ave., suite 110
Roseville, Ca 95661
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