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Welcome to my counseling blog!

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Here you will find all kinds of information related to counseling, therapy, and mental health. Check back every now and then for new content or “like” my facebook page to get updates.

The content found in this blog is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to take the place of counseling, therapy, or advice from a professional. If you are in need of counseling and/or help with psychological problems please contact a mental health professional.
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Why I Haven’t Been Blogging Much

Hello world! I just wanted to drop in here and update my site to explain why I haven’t been blogging much. I actually have been blogging, but in a different place.


In February 2018 I started working on creating a new website. Most of my blogging efforts have been focused there. My new site is called SacWellness. Its a website designed to help people find therapists in the greater Sacramento area. It pretty much covers the areas between Elk grove and Auburn and between Davis and El Dorado hills. You can use the site to search for therapists by treatment approach, issues treated, language, location, and insurances accepted.

Since starting my practice in 2014, writing has become an integral part of my practice, marketing, and my general professional well being :-p. I really enjoy doing it and I’m not going to stop any time soon. You can visit sacwellness.com to find more of my blog posts and those of other local therapists.

In general I intend to write any articles that relate to my specialties here on my site. All others will be written on SacWellness.com. So in general you can expect to see articles on this site being limited to LGBTQ+ issues, sex positive issues, couples, and teen counseling.

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog! Feel free to reach out if you have any questions and/or would like to talk with me about therapy.

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ABC’s of Gender

There are so many things to know about gender identity and gender terminology. Many people commonly mix up gender, sex, and sexuality/ sexual orientation. As a gender therapist I often run into confused parents/family members of clients who don’t understand what their loved one is talking about. In the past I wrote a relatively short blog post about trans/non-binary related terminology. This one is going to be more expansive and I may update it and keep expanding on it as time goes on.

If you or someone you love is trans or gender non conforming you could really benefit from knowing some common concepts and terminology. Really everyone should become familiar with this stuff, because gender is not black and white and there are a lot of people in the world who are gender queer or struggling with their gender identity. So without further ado: (more…)

LGBTQ Therapy, Teen Counseling

Empathy Time! Why Binding Sucks Sometimes.

In my work with Trans and gender non-conforming clients I have run into a consistent theme that I think needs to be talked about. Sometimes binding sucks! All too often I hear my trans clients talk about finding themselves in difficult binding situations and feeling like nobody gets what they’re going through. Sometimes I write blog posts with the intent of them being shared by people as a way for them to communicate something that is going on with them. This one is for the trans and gender non conforming folx. (more…)

Couples Therapy

Why Repeated Relationship Problems are So Common and Why We Tend to Find Partners Who Resemble Our Parents

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Have you ever wondered why you seem to have the same repeated relationship problems? Maybe you’ve encountered the same problems over and over in your current relationship. Or maybe you’ve noticed that you’ve had the same, or similar problems come up in different intimate relationships. There are several reasons why this can happen, a few of which are trauma and codependency. But in this blog post I am going to talk about something that you have probably never heard of before; Imago. (more…)

Couples Therapy

Seven Ways to Spice up Your Love life: A Style Magazine Article

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A while ago I wrote an article for the local Style Magazine. I thought it was a good one and figured I would share it here ^_^. The following is the unabridged version with accompanying videos.

7 Tips to Spice up Your Love Life

Everyone knows the deep, passionate love that is common in new relationships. As time goes on that passionate love tends to diminish when we get through what many people call “the honeymoon period”. This doesn’t mean that our relationships become any less valuable or meaningful, but people often talk about missing that passionate love they felt for their partner early in their relationship. Through vulnerability, open communication, and some exploration, you can reignite that passionate love. Here are seven things you can do to spice up your love life. (more…)

Coping Corner

How to Sleep Better.

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Lots of people have trouble sleeping. In therapy this is one of the most common complaints I hear about in people’s lives. In fact, the American Sleep Association reports that up to 30% of Americans have trouble with insomnia. Luckily there are lots of things you can do to help you sleep better. In this post I’m going to talk about what is known as “sleep hygiene”. (more…)

Addiction Counseling

The Common Symptom of Addiction Recovery that Nobody Talks About.

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Recovering from addiction is challenging and requires a lot from people. There are many hardships that come along with recovery, some well known, and some that don’t get talked about very often. In my experience as an addiction counselor I have consistently seen a lack of discussion about a very important issue that comes up for most if not all recovering addicts: anhedonia. (more…)


Grief and Loss: Healing Through Stories

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We all go through grief and loss at some point in our lives

Everyone has their own individual experience of grief, and no one can tell you how you should grieve or how long it should take. In grief counseling, I have worked with many people who have suffered through the loss of a loved one. The one thing I have seen in common in all of these cases is the importance of being able to experience your own grief and the emotions that come with it. (more…)