Counseling and Therapy

Welcome to my counseling blog!


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This is where you will find all kinds of information related to counseling, therapy, and mental health. I generally use this as a place to write about anything that comes up in therapy and I often refer my clients to posts that seem relevant to the content of our sessions. I like to try to include media in all of my posts, so if you’re not much of a reader, or you’re looking for something quick, you can peruse the clips in my posts and still get something good out of them. I aim to post every other week, but it seems to be more like every 3 weeks on average :-p

The content found in my counseling blog is intended for educational purposes only and is not intended to take the place of counseling, therapy, or advice from a professional. If you are in need of counseling and/or help with psychological problems please contact a mental health professional.

Counseling and Therapy

Grief and Loss: Healing Through Stories


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We all go through grief and loss at some point in our lives

Everyone has their own individual experience of grief, and no one can tell you how you should grieve or how long it should take. In grief counseling, I have worked with many people who have suffered through the loss of a loved one. The one thing I have seen in common in all of these cases is the importance of being able to experience your own grief and the emotions that come with it. (more…)

Counseling and Therapy, LGBTQ Therapy, Relationships

How to Be Supportive When Someone You Love Is Trans or Non Binary


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As a gender therapist, I see a lot of trans and non-binary people in my counseling work. One thing that often comes up in therapy is confusion/misunderstanding among family members. I often get parents calling me for counseling, saying that their teen has come out as trans or non-binary and they don’t know what that means or what to do to support their child.

This blog post offers tips that I often cover in therapy, on how to be supportive of your loved one. It is part of a series of posts intended to offer help and guidance to anybody who loves someone who is trans or non-binary. (more…)

Counseling and Therapy

Someone I Love is Trans or Non-Binary: A Primer on Terminology


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So you’ve recently discovered that someone you love and care about it trans or non-binary. As a trans affirming therapist I work with a lot of teens and adults discovering their gender identity. For the person doing the discovering, this can be a time mixed with emotions like excitement, fear, anxiety, hope, relief, and happiness. Something I see a lot in therapy are parents, friends, or lovers being supportive of their loved ones, but not being sure what all of this means. Over the next month or two I would like to take the time to help you understand more about what it means to be trans or non-binary, some terminology, what you can do to help and be supportive, and what might come next. In this segment:

Some Terms You’ll Likely Hear When Talking About Trans and Non-Binary Issues.

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Counseling and Therapy, Couples Therapy, Relationships

Five Couples Therapy Relationship Questions Answered.


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I was published in Style Magazine again! Check it out! ^_^
Style Magazine: 5 Relationship Questions Answered

Just like I did with the last article that was published in Style Magazine, the following is a copy of the original article…with a couple videos and 6 questions answered instead of five, because I couldn’t decide on which to use :-p (more…)

Codependency, Counseling and Therapy, Couples Therapy, LGBTQ Therapy, Relationships

Interviewed By a Local Therapist


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A friend and local therapist recently interviewed me for her counseling blog. We talked a little about addiction, codependency, couples therapy, and what led me to become a counselor. Take a look! ^_^ :

An Interview: Joe Borders Couples, Teen, and LGBTQ Therapist

If you have any questions about anything in this post or would like to talk to me about therapy and counseling, give me a call sometime. I am a local therapist with offices in Sacramento and Roseville.

Joe Borders, MFT
Counseling and Therapy in Roseville and Sacramento
(530) 448-6602

1722 Professional Drive,
Sacramento, CA 95825
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775 Sunrise Ave., suite 110
Roseville, Ca 95661
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Counseling and Therapy, LGBTQ Therapy

Queerbaiting: a modern problem for the LGBTQ community


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Queerbaiting has been coming up a lot in therapy recently. In my work as an LGBTQ therapist. a common theme that comes up is the feeling of being under represented, trivialized, and/or made to be the target of jokes by mainstream culture. The kind of sentiment that brings up these emotions is especially present in a lot of mainstream media. Many in the LGBTQ community have found ways to cope with and tolerate this exclusion in the media, but it can be difficult, and sometimes feel even worse when it seems as if there might be some LGBTQ inclusion and there turns out to be none. (more…)

Addiction Counseling, Codependency, Counseling and Therapy, Relationships

Codependency: What it is and How it Happens


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What is Codependency

Codependency is one of the most common things I work on with people in counseling. I would honestly guess that at least 90% of the people I see in therapy struggle with some form of codependency. Chances are you’ve heard the word codependency before, but do you really know what it means? Most people have some kind of negative connotations associated with the word. In my experience, a lot of people fixate on the word “dependent”, and think codependency means that they are excessively needy and can’t live without a particular person they’re fused with. This can be the situation in severe cases but

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ADHD, Anxiety Counseling, Counseling and Therapy, Healthy Coping Skills, Mindfulness

How to Control Anxiety: Breathing Exercises.


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Some of the most valuable and useful tools I teach people in counseling are breathing exercises. If you struggle with anxiety, stress, or anger then breathing exercises are for you! Sometimes I get clients who scoff at the idea when I bring it up, but the way you breathe is actually really important. We’re going to cover 2 things about breathing in this post: why the way you breath is so important and how to breath to relax and combat anxiety, stress, anger, and even fear. I also recorded my first YouTube video for this post, so be sure to check that out!

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