Depression Counseling

The Negativity Bias, the News, and Pessimism.


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Looking back over your life, do you ever think about how negative events tend to stand out in your memory more than positive ones? Given relatively similar negative and positive experiences, we tend to focus more on negative ones. In psychology this is known as the negativity bias. Think about it, would you have a stronger emotional reaction to somebody giving you $40 or someone stealing $40 from you? Which of the two would you be more likely to remember several years down the line?

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Other issues

Lucid Dreaming


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Do you dream often? Studies show that the average person has three to five dreams per night. Some people like myself claim to rarely dream, but research suggests that even in these cases, we do dream but are unable to recall our dreams when we wake. As someone who rarely remembers dreaming, I sometimes envy people who have deep, vivid dreams that can be hard to distinguish from reality.

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Anxiety Counseling, Teen Counseling

How to Harness Your Fidgeting to Control ADHD and Anxiety


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You can control ADHD and anxiety with structured fidgeting

Fidgeting is common among people with ADHD and anxiety problems. It used to be thought that fidgeting was a behavior that should be extinguished as much as possible, but recent studies have found that structured fidgeting can actually help people to control ADHD and anxiety. Simple, mindless, repetitive actions can help those with ADHD to focus on tasks that they would normally find difficult to pay attention to.    (more…)

Couples Therapy, LGBTQ Therapy

The Price of Admission


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This is probably the video I most often refer my clients to watch. Often times in therapy, people find themselves evaluating their relationships and thinking about whether or not they are worth “the price of admission”. Is being with this person worth all of the difficulty associated with the relationship? Sometimes the answer is no, but when its framed within the context of  “the price of admission”, often times people decide their relationships are worth it. We all have a fundamental need to be loved, cared for, and supported.

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Anxiety Counseling

The Effects of Stress and Anxiety on the Body


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A lot of times people don’t fully understand the effects that stress can have on your body. When you stress about something, your body’s sympathetic nervous system kicks on and gets you ready to fight or flight. Our fight/flight reflexes are evolutionary responses that work to keep us alive by preparing us to deal with perceived danger. Corticosteroids and adrenaline are pumped into the system and give you a burst of energy so you can get away from whatever is stressing you out. The problem is, the body cannot tell the difference between the stress you feel from having to spend time with your in-laws, and the stress you would feel if there were a tiger lurking around wanting to eat you. (more…)

Addiction Counseling

New Trends in Substance Abuse


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Some substances of abuse have recently taken on different forms. Are you aware of them? With the legalization of marijuana in several states, discovery and popularization of different strains and methods of delivery have excellerated. Historically marijuana has been relatively tame compared to modern day strains. between the 50s and 70s the average THC concentration in marijuana was 0.5 to 2%. Marijuana available today can have a THC content of up to 23%! Sometimes parents confronted with a child who is using marijuana are unaware of this increased potency. (more…)

Couples Therapy

Empathy Vs. Sympathy #2


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I stumbled upon this video after writing my blog post for last week. This is a good follow-up because it depicts the problem of empathy vs sympathy from the perspective of the person who is pulled to be “the fixer”. Sometimes another person’s problems may seem simple, obvious, or trivial, but you can never fully appreciate how that person feels about his or her situation. Attempting to solve another person’s problems effectively ignores the feelings associated with those problems.

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